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Children who have a stomach ache, head, foot, hand, cough, cry, cry excessively, etc. They are children who always hurt something, they constantly complain and there comes a time when as parents we ask ourselves: Is it true that it hurts? Is he pretending?
When the child complains it is to express some annoyance. It is probably due to a real illness or perhaps it is because they are trying to draw attention to something that is happening to them but they do not know how to put it into words. After all, if the child complains it will be to express his discomfort with something.
When children experience adversity, they seek adaptive solutions to be able to live with them or help them solve them. Some, given the lack of attention from their parents, find these answers on television, mobile phones, social networks or material goods.
Others constantly feign pain. Children do it in response to learning. That is to say, Children learn that when they are bad their parents pay more attention to them than when they are not.
When children continually complain of pain, the first thing we have to do is go to the pediatrician to rule out that it is something serious and that its causes are organic or physical and that a specific treatment is necessary.
Once we have ruled out that they are pains without a biological cause, we can think that the child suffers from the so-called attention-calling pains. That is, if, for example, the child has a headache, or stomach frequently, but when they suffer these pains they continue to play or they use it as an excuse not to eat something that he does not like or does to avoid going to school.
When the child constantly complains of pain, adults should:
- Ask yourself why this happens and what it is about. Children use these complaints as an excuse to express that they are not well, something is disturbing them and they are not very clear about what it is. They can be from nerves to a problem that they do not know how to face.
- Do not draw immediate conclusions. You cannot immediately interpret that the child is lying, but they must try to find out what is happening and teach the child to think and face the real problem. That is, trying to understand what is happening in order to guide the child properly to solve what is disturbing him.
- Ignore inappropriate behavior. When using illness as a wake-up call, it is key that parents ignore this type of inappropriate behavior whenever possible. That is, as long as it has been ruled out that the disease is due to organic causes.
- Give it the attention it deserves. It is not worth just ignoring if the pains are invented. You have to go deeper into the problem. Parents will need to consider whether they are providing adequate care for the child.
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