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What Your Child's Mess Says About His Fears

What Your Child's Mess Says About His Fears


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As the children grow up the room begins to become a refuge for them, your 'home', your living space. When they are teenagers, disorder turns into a battle cry, an act of rebellion. Or ... could it be something else?

There are different studies that relate the disorder of a home or a room with certain fears, or anxiety problems. It is clear that we are not going to analyze a small child, who has not yet learned to be organized, but we are going to analyze those older children who are beginning to own their room. We explain what your child's disorder says about their fears.

Clutter says more about us than you might think. It can be a projection of our personality (of aspects that we do not dare to recognize or do not see). Also, not all disorders are the same. You can have a pile of clothes on the chair or accumulate books on the shelf in the room. Is not the same. Find out what your child's disorder says about their way of being and their fears. Valid for fathers and mothers, because, let's face it, adults are also very messy (sometimes):

  1. Children who accumulate many new things. Children who ask for one thing and another, who never tire of accumulating objects as if it were a bazaar, on many occasions what happens is that they want to do too many things at once. They are indecisive, they doubt, it is difficult for them to focus on a single task, on a single objective. They are restless (and sometimes capricious). In fact, they probably have trouble finishing the task they started. They usually leave it and start a new one without having finished it. They are children who live accelerated and do not finish fully enjoying each task they started.
  2. Children who keep all old toys, even if they are broken. Children who find it difficult to get rid of their old toys, those with which they no longer play, and who keep them even if they are broken, may have too much attachment to their past because they have a certain fear of the present and especially of the future and frustrations they will have to deal with. It also happens in the case of parents who have closets and a storage room full of bags with clothes, books and objects of all kinds that they will never use again but that they refuse to throw away.
  3. Accumulation of clothes and toys on chairs and shelves. Each object has its place, but many people (children and not so children) end up leaving them somewhere else. That kind of mess involves a whirlwind of confused ideas, many projects, many dreams, and little patience. They are the typical clueless people (and children), who tend to get excited about everything quickly but who go on an 'adventure' without any elaborate planning and who often end up abandoning a project when that initial illusion gradually fades.
  4. When your child leaves everything piled up at the entrance of the house. The accumulation of objects at the entrance is related to the psychological fear of relating to other people. It is typical of shy children or parents who find it difficult (although it seems the opposite) to establish new relationships.
  5. Clutter on the desk or table. Your child may be fairly orderly, but his work table is in complete chaos. It is typical of very demanding children with themselves. In reality, your child may be afraid of failing, and may not tolerate frustration very well because he is also a perfectionist. It seems contradictory, right? But it is that fears are. This type of disorder is itself a message of the need to control everything.
  6. Children who accumulate everything behind the door. Children with more demanding and authoritarian parents tend to fear 'scolding'. That fear ends up being projected by accumulating things behind the door, hoping to hide some objects from the constant vigilance of their parents.
  7. Clutter in the closet. If the biggest disorder is in the closet, fear is related to emotions and also, of course, to a certain 'mental chaos'. They are very emotional and sensitive children and their main fears have to do with the lack of skills with emotions. They are also very creative children, very resourceful. These little geniuses of creativity are more clueless and have more trouble organizing their ideas ... and their closet.
  8. Mess under the furniture. Hiding everything under furniture is related to the reflection that others have of yourself. They are children and adults who place too much importance on appearances, and are constantly worried about what others think of them. Children who are often constantly asking for the approval of others in everything they do due to a lack of confidence in themselves.
  9. Disorder throughout the house. The complete disorder, in all the rooms and corners of the house, is a reflection of a general apathy. They are 'rebellious' children, constantly angry with life. Very typical, for example, of the adolescent stage.

Apparently, the disorder often does not come due to a learning disability or by a carelessness of the parents with the limits and the norms. Clutter is often a projection of a person's fear and personality. Disorder can occur because of a fear of change or perhaps because of fear of losing something we want. It may be due to attachment to our memories or because we are accelerated through life. Maybe because we find it difficult to concentrate or because our life is simply chaotic.

Clutter can be due to many causes, and we all know that it is not beneficial at all. It's up to you to put the brakes on it and start organizing your home ... and your life.

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