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Is your child afraid? Help him overcome them II

Is your child afraid? Help him overcome them II


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We must not overestimate or underestimate children's fears. The best thing we parents can do is help our children to identify their fears, and to fight them, with a lot of love and patience. But why is it important that we help our children face their fears?

Many times we tend not to give due importance to our children's fears. We find it so easy to fight them that we forget that children are not born with everything learned, and that they will also have to learn, like us, to overcome their fears, step by step. For your child to overcome fears, you need to understand:

1. That first he will have to turn to someone he can trust to share his fears. It is not good for him to grow up 'swallowing' his fears, without resolving them properly. If you convey confidence to your child, he will believe you when you say that there are no 'monsters' in his room and that he can sleep peacefully. It will be easier for him to believe in you.

2. That you should listen to your child. Know what he feels in front of what scares him, what scares him, and everything that the child wants to say. When venting, the child will feel understood, relieved and covered.

3. That you must recognize that fear is not bad a priori, it is an emotion that serves as a natural defense mechanism against those unknown and potentially dangerous things that surround us. It is necessary to know the difference between the fear of falling from a scary ladder or a dog, from a fear of falling asleep in the dark. There is fear that they teach and others that paralyze.

4. That it is important that you explain to your child what fear is, in age appropriate language. Explain that fear is a feeling that can be controlled if you want. Encourage him by saying that together you will find a formula to overcome it. I once read a curious story in which a grandfather taught his grandson to face the dark. I found the idea of ​​grandfather most ingenious. See:

A grandfather bought a (toy) shield for his grandson, the kind that warriors used to protect themselves in wars. The grandfather told the boy that the shield is a good protector and that it would protect him from darkness.

Night after night, the grandfather taught his grandson to walk around the house in the dark with his shield, and the boy felt that nothing was wrong with just carrying the shield in front of him.

The next step was to convince the boy that, if he fell asleep with the light off in his room, nothing would happen to him if he were with the shield.

Well it was. The boy ended up sleeping alone in his room at night. After a few days, seeing that the shield fell to the ground at night, the boy saw that he no longer needed protection. That he, alone, already managed to dominate the darkness. And so he left the fear of the dark. Stage passed!

As important as helping children overcome their fears, is to recognize their efforts when they are able to overcome some fear. You will help them to have more confidence in themselves, and they will face their fears with more determination, courage and courage.

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